well, i do realize that i m no one to comment on what a woman should and should not do, because in my life, i have never assumed the responsibilities of a woman! [but i hv been told number of times that 'toon auratzaat je naale ta daagh aahein, roughly meaning ur the black spot on women race's name...whatever *shurgs*]
so this post is about the woman who said that to me...
she is a mother, a wife and a daughter [count sister too] all roles that any woman should be blessed with. she has this high paying job[122,000/per month- 22,000 are her tax cut- so her bring home income is 100,000 and her husband also earns the same amount], she lives in a posh area in karachi, has a degree from abroad, looks pretty good - but she is still unsatisfied with her life!!!!
because she works she thinks that she is the one who carries the burden of the world on her shoulders, she got married to the guy who was lesser than her in status [this can make another post entirely] but she got whatever she desired. and when she found out that the guy is not what she expected him to be, she was told by her parents that she can leave him and start her life all over again, it was a mistake, she was promised full support, but she never did - she wanted her husband.
she has a daughter who goes to this very post nursery in karachi - a place where most of the people - like me - can't even think of sending their kids - she buys her clothes from mothercare and next or get them from abroad [courtesy her parents] but still laments inflation because she can't buy whatever she wishes.
she have all these servants - a maid, a cleaning lady, a driver - and still she is unhappy. why???? she isn't thankful!
although she told me that i m not good enough woman [because i simply don't bother about certain things] i think she is not a good woman at all!!!
a proud woman must never take support from her parents and learn to live in whatever he incomes allows. she must live with her husband in whatever circumstances or must separate from him, if he is as intolerable as she says her's is. she must make her children first priority not her career!!!! or must not complaint when she gets to hear that her child is spoiled!!!! a good woman must know her limits as well - in terms of dressing, language, and conduct with others.
when i was young my mother tried to teach me that shouting at others wont get anything done - i learnt it the hard way when i started working. a colleague tried to teach me that people just wont be nice to me because i am nice to them or that not everyone would be honest because i think i m honest - i learnt it hard way too! the best way to get things done is to do them yourself or keep reminding people who are supposed to do them!
now this woman expects her servant to be everything that she is not - she wants them to be punctual when she is not - she wants them to be loyal - when she is not [she hates her job and swears a lot and calls the company a shitty company] - she wants them to be methodical - when she is not - she wants them to be organized - when she is not- she wants them to pay attention to detail - when she ignores most obvious of things.
and then she thinks that she is the best woman!!! now go figures. because you work to earn 100,000 rupees in Pakistan you have to work long hours. you are standing out for this, because you want to make your child appear nice, you buy all these expensive clothes [trust me zainab market would do the same job] but you forget to teach her manners and you treat your child as a doll!!! to play dress up!!!
my dear woman! in this world to be a good woman, cleaning fervently is not the only important thing - there is a life beyond that. you need to learn to behave and speak!!!!
Sugandh
so this post is about the woman who said that to me...
she is a mother, a wife and a daughter [count sister too] all roles that any woman should be blessed with. she has this high paying job[122,000/per month- 22,000 are her tax cut- so her bring home income is 100,000 and her husband also earns the same amount], she lives in a posh area in karachi, has a degree from abroad, looks pretty good - but she is still unsatisfied with her life!!!!
because she works she thinks that she is the one who carries the burden of the world on her shoulders, she got married to the guy who was lesser than her in status [this can make another post entirely] but she got whatever she desired. and when she found out that the guy is not what she expected him to be, she was told by her parents that she can leave him and start her life all over again, it was a mistake, she was promised full support, but she never did - she wanted her husband.
she has a daughter who goes to this very post nursery in karachi - a place where most of the people - like me - can't even think of sending their kids - she buys her clothes from mothercare and next or get them from abroad [courtesy her parents] but still laments inflation because she can't buy whatever she wishes.
she have all these servants - a maid, a cleaning lady, a driver - and still she is unhappy. why???? she isn't thankful!
although she told me that i m not good enough woman [because i simply don't bother about certain things] i think she is not a good woman at all!!!
a proud woman must never take support from her parents and learn to live in whatever he incomes allows. she must live with her husband in whatever circumstances or must separate from him, if he is as intolerable as she says her's is. she must make her children first priority not her career!!!! or must not complaint when she gets to hear that her child is spoiled!!!! a good woman must know her limits as well - in terms of dressing, language, and conduct with others.
when i was young my mother tried to teach me that shouting at others wont get anything done - i learnt it the hard way when i started working. a colleague tried to teach me that people just wont be nice to me because i am nice to them or that not everyone would be honest because i think i m honest - i learnt it hard way too! the best way to get things done is to do them yourself or keep reminding people who are supposed to do them!
now this woman expects her servant to be everything that she is not - she wants them to be punctual when she is not - she wants them to be loyal - when she is not [she hates her job and swears a lot and calls the company a shitty company] - she wants them to be methodical - when she is not - she wants them to be organized - when she is not- she wants them to pay attention to detail - when she ignores most obvious of things.
and then she thinks that she is the best woman!!! now go figures. because you work to earn 100,000 rupees in Pakistan you have to work long hours. you are standing out for this, because you want to make your child appear nice, you buy all these expensive clothes [trust me zainab market would do the same job] but you forget to teach her manners and you treat your child as a doll!!! to play dress up!!!
my dear woman! in this world to be a good woman, cleaning fervently is not the only important thing - there is a life beyond that. you need to learn to behave and speak!!!!
Sugandh
